How to stop worrying whether people like you?

One of the most acute questions we ask ourselves in relation to new friends and acquaintances is whether or not they like us. The question feels so significant because, depending on how we answer it in our minds, we will either take steps to deepen the friendship or, as is often the case, immediately make moves to withdraw from it so as to spare ourselves humiliation and embarrassment.

But what is striking and sad is how essentially passive we are in relation to this enquiry. We assume that there is a more or less binary answer, that it is wholly in the remit of the other person to settle it – and that there is nothing much we could do to shift the verdict one way or the other. Either someone wants to be our friend – or they don’t – and the answer, while it is about us, is essentially disconnected from any of our own initiatives.

The link below will connect you to a video produced by the School of Life on just this topic. The aim of it is to help you understand the complexities of our early meetings with people and how we can influence the outcomes unwittingly.

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EMDR Processing Explained

This is a thorough explanation of EMDR processing and what you can expect if you decide to take up this kind of therapy.

In this episode, Marie-Chantal Moll-Vignes, Clinical Audiologist & Tinnitus Specialist chats to Heather Cuffe, Trauma Clinical Lead for the NHS Trust, EMDR practitioner & CBT Psychotherapist.

Heather answers questions about EMDR, a type of trauma therapy, that works to heal stored trauma within the mind, and subsequently the body, and works to reduce overall psychological and somatic stress. This may be helpful to those who have experienced Trauma in their lives, and live with chronic health conditions that are exacerbated by stress stored within the mind and body.

Although in the context of therapy for PTSD and the symptoms of tinnitus that can be experienced for some as a consequence of trauma. The explanation of EMDR is clinically thorough and a true representation of EMDR as therapy.

Click here to view the 30 minute video