Dr Jarero’s Self Care For Frontline Workers

Hi everyone,

In these challenging times we are all doing our bit and some are in the frontline … out there keeping the rest of us going.

Here is something for all you frontline workers, for everyone in the NHS particularly but also anyone facing unprecedented circumstances, challenges and stress.

Click here for a video put together by Dr Jarero a frontline Mental Health worker helping people deal with trauma, natural and man made disasters.

Dr Janero talks you through how to process the stress of a difficult day. It is short, only 8 minutes long and I hop that it will help ease you burden of stress and trauma in these troubled times.

Dr Janero talks you through his process using some techniques from EMDR. I use something similar myself regularly so I thought I would share it with you all. It is not meant to replace therapy for PTSD but it does help to prevent a build up of trauma and will give you some relief from replaying stressful events over and over when you want to rest.

With warm thanks to all you front line workers helping us all ….. I hope it helps you in return.

Kim

For Someone Awakening To The Trauma of His or Her Past:

By John O’Donohue

For everything under the sun there is a time.
This is the season of your awkward harvesting,
When the pain takes you where you would rather not go,


Through the white curtain of yesterdays to a place
You had forgotten you knew from the inside out;
And a time when that bitter tree was planted

That has grown always invisibly beside you
And whose branches your awakened hands
Now long to disentangle from your heart.

You are coming to see how your looking often darkened
When you should have felt safe enough to fall toward love,
How deep down your eyes were always owned by something

That faced them through a dark fester of thorns
Converting whoever came into a further figure of the wrong;
You could only see what touched you as already torn.

Now the act of seeing begins your work of mourning.
And your memory is ready to show you everything,
Having waited all these years for you to return and know.

Only you know where the casket of pain is interred. 
You will have to scrape through all the layers of covering
And according to your readiness, everything will open. 

May you be blessed with a wise and compassionate guide
Who can accompany you through the fear and grief
Until your heart has wept its way to your true self.

As your tears fall over that wounded place,
May they wash away your hurt and free your heart.
May your forgiveness still the hunger of the wound.

So that for the first time you can walk away from that place, 
Reunited with your banished heart, now healed and freed,
And feel the clear, free air bless your new face. 

From: To Bless The Space Between Us: A book of blessings
Night terrors Skull

From Nightmares to Peaceful Sleep….

Dr Justin Havens, a senior and well respected EMDR Consultant has developed a technique for dealing with nightmares, night terrors and other disturbing dreams. His technique can be used whether or not you remember your dream.

It is a straightforward technique that does not need you to go over your dream, analyse it or even remember it for the technique to be effective.

Follow the link below to watch a short video that Dr Havens has put together about how to use his technique.

CLICK HERE FOR VIDEO

A Healing Journey with EMDR

Welcome to James’ story – a story about how a childhood of trauma and adversity led James to feel despair, loneliness and rage. Walk with James through his pain to a new chapter in his life where he begins to heal, and create a new and hopeful future.

Click here for the link to James’ Story

Produced by Beacon House Therapeutic Services and Trauma Team.

A View on Healthy Love

To add to my recent posting from Dr Les Carter, I have found another of his videos with an interesting look at healthy and unhealthy love.

If you are looking for some answers on what the difference is between healthy and unhealthy love check out his video by clicking here

Remember as always to take what you want from this blog and discard anything that does not fit for you.

Looking after yourself when you are with someone who has narcissistic traits

It is almost impossible to avoid people with narcissistic traits. For some of you they will be family members you want to stay in contact with but that contact is really painful. For others they may be a friend, colleague, boss or perhaps just someone you encounter through your every day business.

If you have empath tendencies it will be particularly important to take good care of yourself emotionally when around someone with narcissistic tendencies. You are like a sponge absorbing the emotions of those around you and some emotions are damaging for you.

“With their self-absorption, entitlement, trigger-quick defenses, it is clear that narcissists have not developed adult coping mechanisms. The height of futility comes when you respond just as poorly in reverse.

Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter

Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains how you can maintain maturity even in the midst of the narcissist’s childlike immaturity. It requires you to think independently, not letting the narcissist set your agenda. Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many seminars and workshops.”

Click here to watch a video on maintaining your mature responses to a narcissist on Dr Les Carter’s Youtube Blog “Surviving Narcissism”