Support for Narcissistic Abuse

Abuse is not just violence it can take many forms.  these include…

  • Physical Violence
  • Verbal Aggression (Shouting Swearing)
  • Controllling and Coercive Behaviour
  • Emotional Abuse (Denying your emotional Response)
  • Mental Abuse (Labelling you, name calling, confusing you)
  • Sexual Abuse (any sexual act against you will)
  • Financial Abuse (Controlling or denying you money)
  • Spiritual Abuse (E.g. using the fear of god to control you)   …. and more

Some people have some traits which make it hard to be in relationship with them and still be yourself.  Narcissists, Psychopaths and Sociopaths are difficult to spot but have very similar traits.  These traits include.

  • Lack of Self Awareness … therefore they don’t understand the impact they have on others
  • Lack of empathy… will often tell you your feelings are wrong
  • Self-rightiousness… they never say sorry.
  • An inflated sense of importance…
  • A need to control and have things on their own terms
  • Unable to tolerate difference or different views

This kind of abuse is particularly difficult to understand.  When we are in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic traits life becomes very confusing and we can feel very isolated.

The abuse experienced is often emotional and mental abuse…  the nature of this kind of abuse makes it very hard for you to understand what happened.  How did things go from a deeply loving relationship (people often fall in love with people with these traits very quickly and deeply) to constant arguments or not being able to get thing right?  It seems you are always at fault and getting things wrong.

If you have been in this type of  confusing relationship there is help at hand.  Here are links to two websites that offer support and understanding…

Thrive after Abuse.com

Psychopath Free.com

These are not the only websites and you should explore such matters further  to make your own decision.

Understanding Depression…two useful guides

Depression is one of those things that is sometimes really hard to understand.  People sometimes judge a person negatively when they have depression if they don’t understand.

I am often asked … “What can I do to help someone experiencing depression?”

If you want to know more about supporting someone with depression then I recommend you read a book called “Living with a black dog” by Matthew and Ainsley Johnstone.  The term “black dog” was first coined by the Roman poet Horace and later adopted  by Winston Churchill to describe his own depression.  “Living with a black dog” is a great book and is aimed and helping those who want know how to help someone with depression.

If you want to know more about depression, then Matthew and Ainsley Johnstone have also written “I had a black dog”.

These books have now been converted into a short video on YouTube…

Click here to watch Living with a black dog on video

Click here to watch I had a black dog on video