Dr Jarero’s Self Care For Frontline Workers

Hi everyone,

In these challenging times we are all doing our bit and some are in the frontline … out there keeping the rest of us going.

Here is something for all you frontline workers, for everyone in the NHS particularly but also anyone facing unprecedented circumstances, challenges and stress.

Click here for a video put together by Dr Jarero a frontline Mental Health worker helping people deal with trauma, natural and man made disasters.

Dr Janero talks you through how to process the stress of a difficult day. It is short, only 8 minutes long and I hop that it will help ease you burden of stress and trauma in these troubled times.

Dr Janero talks you through his process using some techniques from EMDR. I use something similar myself regularly so I thought I would share it with you all. It is not meant to replace therapy for PTSD but it does help to prevent a build up of trauma and will give you some relief from replaying stressful events over and over when you want to rest.

With warm thanks to all you front line workers helping us all ….. I hope it helps you in return.

Kim

For Someone Awakening To The Trauma of His or Her Past:

By John O’Donohue

For everything under the sun there is a time.
This is the season of your awkward harvesting,
When the pain takes you where you would rather not go,


Through the white curtain of yesterdays to a place
You had forgotten you knew from the inside out;
And a time when that bitter tree was planted

That has grown always invisibly beside you
And whose branches your awakened hands
Now long to disentangle from your heart.

You are coming to see how your looking often darkened
When you should have felt safe enough to fall toward love,
How deep down your eyes were always owned by something

That faced them through a dark fester of thorns
Converting whoever came into a further figure of the wrong;
You could only see what touched you as already torn.

Now the act of seeing begins your work of mourning.
And your memory is ready to show you everything,
Having waited all these years for you to return and know.

Only you know where the casket of pain is interred. 
You will have to scrape through all the layers of covering
And according to your readiness, everything will open. 

May you be blessed with a wise and compassionate guide
Who can accompany you through the fear and grief
Until your heart has wept its way to your true self.

As your tears fall over that wounded place,
May they wash away your hurt and free your heart.
May your forgiveness still the hunger of the wound.

So that for the first time you can walk away from that place, 
Reunited with your banished heart, now healed and freed,
And feel the clear, free air bless your new face. 

From: To Bless The Space Between Us: A book of blessings

Looking after yourself when you are with someone who has narcissistic traits

It is almost impossible to avoid people with narcissistic traits. For some of you they will be family members you want to stay in contact with but that contact is really painful. For others they may be a friend, colleague, boss or perhaps just someone you encounter through your every day business.

If you have empath tendencies it will be particularly important to take good care of yourself emotionally when around someone with narcissistic tendencies. You are like a sponge absorbing the emotions of those around you and some emotions are damaging for you.

“With their self-absorption, entitlement, trigger-quick defenses, it is clear that narcissists have not developed adult coping mechanisms. The height of futility comes when you respond just as poorly in reverse.

Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter

Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains how you can maintain maturity even in the midst of the narcissist’s childlike immaturity. It requires you to think independently, not letting the narcissist set your agenda. Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many seminars and workshops.”

Click here to watch a video on maintaining your mature responses to a narcissist on Dr Les Carter’s Youtube Blog “Surviving Narcissism”

Recognising Your Narcissistic Mother

If the vision perfection that this picture presents resonates with you as a falsehood that hides a whole lot of hurt, then may be your mother (or father) has narcissistic traits. A narcissistic parent likes to creates a vision of perfection for the world to see. People outside the family will see your family as healthy and perfect and image that belies the emotional damage (and other types of abuse ) that happens within the family home.

I was recently recommended this video on YouTube by Johanna Kujath a psychologist. She describes the traits of a narcissistic mother as she sees them. She also takes time to explain the impact a mother with these traits has on her daughter.

Click here to watch the video

If from watching this video you consider that may be you have a narcissistic parent or partner, below is a video from Dr Les Carter who provides a blog for people affected by people with narcissistic traits. He offers some sound advice on how to cope and protect yourself from the effects of emotional abuse in the video entitled “The I Refuse Approach to communication with a narcissist.” His emphasis is on staying true to yourself.

Click here to watch his video

If you like his video you might like to try this video which helps you to understand why you feel so angry when you are around narcissistic people or alternatively you can subscribe to his blog. He offers some sound advice on how to understand narcissism and how to support yourself when you are in the company of a narcissist.

Having Trouble Sleeping?

Are you struggling to get to sleep at night? May be you have already tried different techniques but not found anything to break through the shield of alertness and worry so that you can immerse yourself in relaxation and sleep.

Much has been written and research has shown how a cat’s purring can aid relaxation and sleep. It helps to lower our heart rate, slow down our metabolism and prepare for sleep.

Having a cat around you can actually trigger the release of calming chemicals in your body which lower your stress and anxiety levels. The calming effect of owning a cat triggers the release of oxytocin, the hormone known for inducing feelings of love and trust. People going through difficult times of grief or mourning report that talking to their pet helps work out their feelings, since it is often easier to talk to something that won’t respond and can’t judge than to another human being. In addition, a study found that children with autism were more likely to be less anxious and calm while petting a cat.

Well the internet now has a cat!

His/her name is Purli and you can set Purli to purr and occasionally Mew in a way that suits you. Purli is a recording of a continuous cat purr which has been designed to aid rest and sleep.


Click here for Purli